Once when I was in India I was travelling in train. I had a window seat. My neighbour was in 40's and she introduced me as a school teacher. And ya, that time I was in my 20's. We had a good friendly talk about what and where and both of us had the same destination. After and hour we had some snacks and since it was a day travel of 8 hours, we exchanged some magazines and was sticked to it. Then someltime later I felt her head on my shoulder. 'Snooooooooorrr Snoooooooor' oops she was asleep. I felt pity for her and turned to my books again. After sometime she adjusted to her comfort to lay on my shoulder. I was in trouble now. I found delicate to wake her and disturb the sleep. I couldnt bear her head weight also. There are three actions I could perform:
- To control my pain and let her sleep (SUBMISSIVE)
- To shout at her for behaving mannerless (AGGRESSIVE)
- To wake her from sleep and give her my window seat so that she can sleep with comfort and I can continue with my magazines. (ASSERTIVE)
I chose the third one and both were settled in peace. If I had chosen any of the first two choices I will be left out in big tension throughout my 8 hr journey and enter into my work with pressure.
Like this being ASSERTIVE in all our actions will be advantageous and wise also. Being assertive in your thought will deliver a clear decision always.When we are assertive even personality becomes a second preference only.